A happy and successful marriage requires a lot of time and effort. These days, it feels like we never have time to get everything done in a day, but I would encourage you to set aside time every day to really connect with your partner in a meaningful way. Here are 3 quick ideas to get you started:
Our relationships are designed to bring us joy. Laughter is what makes us human. Humor can reduce tension and lighten the mood. Think about what makes you and your spouse laugh and share it. And don't forget to laugh at his or her jokes, it's polite! According to research by Dr. John Gottman, a world renowned couples therapist, sharing humor with your partner is one of the most effective ways to strengthen your relationship.
Relive a Memory
When you are feeling disconnected from your partner, it's important to remember what brought you together in the first place. Every now and again, share a memory from when you were dating or an especially loving time. Relive a funny story, a fun vacation memory, or look through some old photos.
Sometimes it's easy to make a long list of ways your partner has annoyed you, but that's not really a helpful way to connect! Instead, list some of things that make you grateful for your partner. Chances are, your mate has done at least one thing that made your day a little easier or more enjoyable. Let them know how you appreciated him or her today.